Blessing or Curse

Proverbs 18:20-21
20 From the fruit of his mouth a man’s stomach is filled; with the harvest from his lips he is satisfied.
21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Powerful words! To realize that life and death (blessings or curses) are in our tongues. I was reminded last week just how powerful our words can be over our lives and the life's of the ones we speak into. You know the bully who is always made fun of, pushed around and talked down to who later commits suicide? Or the child who is always told they are stupid and therefore they believe they aren't able to go to college and work at a fast food restaurant instead? Or the limb I don't climb out on because I don't believe I am strong enough to handle what may or may not come of my choice because I have been told I am weak?

You can not take back a word that has already been spoken no matter how much you wish you could if the words you spoke cause damage the damage is done in that instant. While an apology may be offered the words are never forgotten. And the way your words make a person feel never goes away either. Do you think of that before you speak? No not me not normally. I am a rather blunt person I say what is on my mind and most of the time with out even thinking I am spewing a curse right over myself, my husband or our children or over those around me. Why in the world would I want to consciously do that? Why would I want to tear anyone down? The truth is I don't I want to build up! So I had to make a conscious decision that I was only going to allow my tongue to offer blessing over my life, my family, my household, finances and those around me. Because lets face it was all have enough in this world cutting us down. When you speak blessings over yourself or those around you that is what comes! Our words are so much more powerful than we even realize. Here are a few more scriptures on the subject from the book of Proverbs...

Proverbs 31:26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

Proverbs 10:11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but violence overwhelms the mouth of the wicked.

Proverbs 11:9 With his mouth the godless destroys his neighbor, but through knowledge the righteous escape.

Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Proverbs 13:3 He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.

Proverbs 15:4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

Better yet google Proverbs on the power of the tongue! I could post these things all day. But the book of Proverbs has so many wise wise words on the subject. Find a few read over them and let me speak to you about what you are offering...Blessing or Cursing? The choice is ours!

Worry and Fear

After yesterday's post I thought about worry all day. And as a Christian we are told not to worry we are also told not to fear. I do both and I do both very very well! It's me I am always scared about something ot honestly anything and I worry ALL THE TIME. God started speaking to me and so I took to my computer for a little research on the topics and found this...

The Bible tells you to fear not 365 times. How about that 1 time for every single day of the year! Sounds easy enough right? For me it is not so easy and I don't know why. I know God has my back he always has and I know He protects me but still I live in fear over so much. My sweet friend April always tells me fear is faith in the wrong kingdom! Talk about a reality check...I don't want any of my faith or time wasted on the wrong kingdom! I found these scriptures on fear I thought I would share:

Psalm 23:4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

Isaiah 43:1-3 But now thus says the LORD, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.For I am the LORD your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior. I give Egypt as your ransom, Cush and Seba in exchange for you.

Hebrews 13:6 So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?"

I know with God's help and a little study I can conquer my fear. I know I sure need to because I should be free!

I also looked up some verses about worry. I honestly think this is going to be the hardest one for me to break. I think I have consumed myself with worry over every little thing. I can not live this way anymore I am going to cling to the scripture read it study it and allow God to speak to me.

Matthew 6:25-27 “Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?

Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Psalm 55:22 Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved

And then I found this last one. It jumped off of the page at me and I am going to have it be my mantra for a while. I know God will take my junk and make it wonderful I just need to lay down these things to Him!

Luke 12:25 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?

I found all the above scripture here it is a great read so head on over:
http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/bible-verses-about-worry-20-comforting-scripture-quotes/

Realization

Since I spent all of yesterdays blog post ranting about how overwhelmed I seem to be right now because you know LIFE HAPPENS. I got to thinking it was time to reshape MY way of thinking because lets face it those around me who I feel like expect so much out of me are going to change their expectations:/ I had a couple realizations yesterday as I was cleaning my you guessed it nasty house.

Realization #1- I am only one person! No matter how much I wanna do I can only do so much. And I am the one who says yest to things and some of those things piled on me are there because I put them there. Learning to say No because I am already too busy is OKAY!

Realization #2- My house has 3 children who live in it full time. We don't leave to go to work or school every day and therefore it is not going to be spotless until they all move off to college and then we will only wish we had match box cars, random shoes, and books to pick up.

Realization #3- Laundry is never going to go away! I have to wash it people can not go naked. The sooner I get a handle on it the better!

Realization #4- I need to STOP! I need to stop worrying over EVERY LITTLE THING! I need to start really enjoying this time with my children that I have been given. I will not be able to replace these years if I waste them depressed and worried about things that I can not control.

I have known all these things but my own worry and self imposed ideas over what I should be doing have been beating me down. I just want to be the best wife, mother, daughter and sister God wants me to be. It was then that I realized I had neglected my own spiritual health. I wasn't feeding what I REALLY NEEDED! I have to find an outlet for what burns inside of me for God and stop letting life be in the way.

So how about you? Do you worry to much? Let life get in the way of the ultimate relationship? What do you need to put down? Or take up? Stop beating yourself up! All you ever have to be is the best you that you can be!

Confessions of This Overwhelmed Mommy

It is not to often that I admit defeat and throw in the towel. But that is where you find me today. Ready to just give up. Nobody ever said being a stay at home homeschooling mommy to 3 kiddos and wife to a husband that works insane hours was going to be easy. Be warned you will not find any warm fuzzies in this post...just sayin!

Confession #1- I am so annoyed by people who think that just because I "stay at home" my time is disposable and in abundance. You couldn't be more wrong brothers and sisters if there is one thing this mommy doesn't have it is extra time! So please please please refrain from "dumping" on me when you are just too busy to do something yourself...newsflash I am busy to!

Confession #2- When you don't return my email or phone calls please remember it might take me time to get back to you when you finally return mine! Seriously!

Confession #3- I love love love homeschooling and if that was the only thing I had to do every day that would be wonderful but reality is I have a million other things to do and those things wear me down and overwhelm me!

Confession#4- Sometimes I need to freak out! I promise you will survive and I will feel better. What I need is for people to not act like I am the first person to ever have a melt down!

Confession#5- I can't be "on" 100% of the time. It is impossible I do have bad days and sometimes I need to just be down.

Okay so enough of my rant. I am so thankful that Gods mercies are new every morning and that He is able to save me from myself! I love my life and am beyond blessed by being able to be at home with my lovelies. I also wouldn't have it any other way. A momma just needs to vent from time to time know what I mean. What drives you crazy how do you keep from feeling overwhelemed? Please share and help a sister out!

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Holy Week Reflection

As most of you know this week is Holy Week. Marking the days leading up to Jesus' death and resurrection. You can read a little more about it here. For me I like to spend time each day reflecting on what was done for me at the Cross. I mean the very thought of my King being beaten, spit on, a crown of thrones pressed onto His head and then made to drag His own cross up the hill makes me beyond sad. But of course I know the good news He didn't stay in the grave! He lives as an exalted KING! Back to reflection...What was done for me...for you...for every single person living and yet to be born was done out of pure unconditional love. I mean Jesus went to the cross with me in mind before I was even a twinkle in the eye of my mother or her a twinkle in her mothers eye. I can't even wrap my mind around it sometimes and then sometimes I am so over come by the love shown for me I can't stand it! What Jesus has done means I never have to pay the price for my sin which is death. It means that I get to live forever and ever in heaven celebrating with Him. Now that is love. Can you even as a parent imagine what it was like for Mary? I have 3 children and can't even begin to imagine having to select one of them to save the others but that is just what God did He sent His ONLY son so that we might have life! I promise there is no greater love!

I heard this song a while back and I think it is perfect for the Lenten time. Listen, receive and know that you are love beyond anything you can or ever will imagine!

UGH major trouble posting and/or linking the video. Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1GzOUnUN20